We are in the last week of our series on biblical womanhood. We have looked at five important doctrines that a woman seeking biblical womanhood should stand firm upon in her life. It is because of these doctrines that we affirm a number of beliefs that are central to the Christian faith and those desiring to practice biblical womanhood. This week we will finish up with several principles that women need to understand and put into practice in our lives to help demonstrate biblical womanhood.
Some would have us to believe that the single most important goal for a woman is to be a wife and mother. If that were so, then what about single women? However, that is not God’s plan. Every woman, married or single, has a responsibility to be the woman God intends her to be and to carry out His plan of bringing HIM glory.
God’s plan for gender is wider than marriage; all women, whether married or single, are to model femininity in their various relationships, by exhibiting a distinctive modesty, responsiveness, and gentleness of spirit.
Modeling femininity (quality or nature of the female sex). Society tells us to shed the roles womanhood typically hold. In order to achieve their goals, society encourages women to be more like men: in attitude, in the workplace, in relationships, in sex. This is not how God intended us to behave. Women are deeply relational beings. We are to give life and nurture life. We are to be men’s helpers (ezer), which is a help that is indispensable. This is not weakness; it is strength. Deborah, the judge, is a great example of a strong woman leader who led a nation in keeping with womanly attributes and respected men at the same time.
Judges 4:4-10, And Deborah, a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time. 5 And she dwelt under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in mount Ephraim: and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment. 6 And she sent and called Barak the son of Abinoam out of Kedeshnaphtali, and said unto him, Hath not the Lord God of Israel commanded, saying, Go and draw toward mount Tabor, and take with thee ten thousand men of the children of Naphtali and of the children of Zebulun? 7 And I will draw unto thee to the river Kishon Sisera, the captain of Jabin’s army, with his chariots and his multitude; and I will deliver him into thine hand. 8 And Barak said unto her, If thou wilt go with me, then I will go: but if thou wilt not go with me, then I will not go. 9 And she said, I will surely go with thee: notwithstanding the journey that thou takest shall not be for thine honour; for the Lord shall sell Sisera into the hand of a woman. And Deborah arose, and went with Barak to Kedesh. 10 And Barak called Zebulun and Naphtali to Kedesh; and he went up with ten thousand men at his feet: and Deborah went up with him.
Judges 4:14, And Deborah said unto Barak, Up; for this is the day in which the Lord hath delivered Sisera into thine hand: is not the Lord gone out before thee? So Barak went down from mount Tabor, and ten thousand men after him.
Judges 5:1-2, Then sang Deborah and Barak the son of Abinoam on that day, saying, 2 Praise ye the Lord for the avenging of Israel, when the people willingly offered themselves.
Deborah was a married woman whom God made a judge in Israel. One day she summoned Barak to her. Instead of emasculating him because he had not yet carried out God’s orders, she simply reminded Barak of what God had ordered him to do. She also reminded him that God said He would deliver them the victory. Notice how she did it. She was gentle. She exhibited respect, yet at the same time she exhibited her leadership. For whatever reason, Barak responded that he would go if Deborah went. Deborah did just that. On the day of the battle she encouraged Barak to go into battle, reminding him that God was before them. When the battle was over Deborah and Barak together sang a song of praise to the Lord for giving them the victory. This is a perfect example of how we as women should exhibit our biblical womanhood. Even though Deborah was the leader of the nation, she knew how to lead and yet respect the men around her.
We all are subject to authorities over us: parents, spouse, pastors, employers, and government. Single or married, there are ways in which we can respect and respond to these authorities that mirror how we respond to God’s leading, our ultimate authority. How is our tone when speaking to or about them? Do we snap or do we weigh our words? Do we question to gain understanding and clarity or because we do not agree and are exhibiting a rebellious heart? Do we seek our own way and desires or do we strive to build up the other even if we must sacrifice self? These are all things we need to consider when gauging our responsiveness and gentleness to all those we come in contact.
1 Corinthians 11:2-16, Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you. 3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head. 5 But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven. 6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered. 7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. 8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man. 9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. 10 For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels. 11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. 12 For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God. 13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered? 14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? 15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering. 16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.
1 Timothy 2:9-13, In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
How are we doing? Do we understand what these verses are talking about? Do we try to “lead” our husbands or do we allow our husbands to lead us? Do we seek to draw attention to ourselves through our clothes and our actions? Or, do we strive to willingly submit to those over us? How is our speech: self-promoting or self-less?
Ladies, whether you are single or married, we need to strive to have the right relationships with all those around us. Our lives are to living examples of the bride of Christ (church). Our response to others should be an pattern in how we respond to the leading of the Lord. Above all, we are to glorify and magnify our Savior.
The framework of this series was taken from the True Woman Manifesto provided through Revive Our Hearts Ministry.