We have looked at five important doctrines that a woman seeking biblical womanhood should stand firm upon in her life. It is because of these doctrines that we affirm a number of beliefs that are central to the Christian faith and those desiring to practice biblical womanhood. For the next several weeks we will examine these beliefs and how they relate to us and the culture in which we live.
“The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.” Ladies, the single most influential act we can have on this world, both in the present and in the future, is to impact the life of a child. We see too often society looking down on those who care for children. Many have bought into the idea that we can have the children then pass them off to the school systems to educate. After all, what do we know about educating children? Children are our future. They are precious in God’s eyes. We women were created to bear and nurture them.
Children are a blessing from God; women are uniquely designed to be bearers and nurturers of life, whether it be their own biological or adopted children, or other children in their sphere of influence.
Women are gifted by God to be the caregivers, the nurturers. God created within us the space to bear children. He created us uniquely on the outside to carry, care for, and comfort. Aside from the obvious anatomical differences, there is another distinct physical difference. Try this. Stand with your arms to your side. Now turn your hands so that your palms are facing out. See the angle? It seems fairly sharp; it’s about 20 degrees. Now go find your husband, father, brother, or a guy-friend. Ask him to do the same. The angle he has is only about 5 to 10 degrees. It is this angle that makes us different when caring for children. This is why men have a difficult time carrying children in their arms. What do dads typically do? Puts the children on their shoulders. But the angle of the woman’s arm allows her to create a space, a curve, in which to cradle her baby, to nurse her baby, to seemingly carry that baby on her hip for hours at a time, to create a space of comfort and protection.
Because of my pregnancy complications, I understand the longing a woman has to have children but simply physically cannot. I do not pretend to understand the reason some are able to bear children while others struggle to get pregnant. Some women choose to adopt, others avail themselves with science through infertility treatments or surrogacy. Many, whether single, childless, or those with a “quiver full,” invest their lives in the children within their own families or in other areas of their lives, whether with friend’s children, occupations centered around children, or in areas of ministry within the church.
Genesis 1:28, And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
Genesis 9:1, And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.
God instructed Adam and Eve, then later Noah and his sons, to be fruitful and multiply. There was no mincing words. We are intended to multiply mankind. How does this translate to God’s bigger picture? As Christians, we are also to be fruitful and multiply spiritually by birthing new believers in Christ. This is how the family grows.
Psalm 127:1-5, Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. 2 It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep. 3 Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Children are a blessing from the LORD. In the passage above, we see a reminder that we must rely on the Lord for success. We can work and worry all we want, but it is the Lord who takes care of all. Then we see a very tiny word, “Lo.” It seems to be just “one of those old words” that no one really knows why it is there. In the parts of speech of English it is considered an interjection. It’s definition is that it is used to call attention or to express wonder or surprise. The psalmist is calling attention to something: Children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
The word heritage might also be translated as inheritance. In the Jewish community this is very significant. Abraham was promised an inheritance, that of the Promise Land. He was also told he would be the father of many nations. God kept both of those promises. Having a family with many children is not shameful; it is a blessing from God. It is a big picture reminder of God’s plan.
Titus 2:4-5, That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
“To love their children.” This is what the aged (older) women are to teach the younger. It seems strange that this would be a necessary thing to do. The phrase “to love their children” is the Greek word philoteknos. It refers to the maternal love of a mother toward her child. There are many practical things that need to be taught in caring for the child’s physical needs. But, children also need emotional and spiritual training. We often see the news stories of mothers failing to care for their children’s physical needs. Yet, it is the failure in the emotional and spiritual areas that can bring the results that verse 5 above talks about.
As we think about the big picture, we might think of areas within the church where this has taken place. The Greek word blasphémeó is translated here as blasphemed. It means I speak evil against, blaspheme, use abusive or scurrilous language about (God or men). Isn’t this where is seems we are today in our Christian families and in our churches?
As women seeking to live lives in true biblical womanhood, we must remember that we are the example to the world as to how the church is in relationship with Christ and with the world around us.
The framework of this series was taken from the True Woman Manifesto provided through Revive Our Hearts Ministry.